Independence & Strength to Stand Alone

"In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself." - Laurence Sterne

Being alone - away from noise, talk and influence - can be healthy for a person's development as it allows a person to be with themselves only and to find contentment in that. Being alone means peace, quiet, sometimes silence. It means solitude. It means gentle focus on one's own day and one's own priorities, in peace, contentment and happiness. It takes self-confidence and security to find happiness in being alone, and self-discipline to make the most of it.

"Loneliness is not lack of company. Loneliness is lack of purpose." - Guillermo Maldonado

"If you want to be happy, learn to be alone without being lonely." - Michael Josephson

You must find contentment in being alone with yourself and thus contentment in who you are. And if you find you are not content, you must change and build and develop - you must work on you for YOU. But if you never give yourself the gift of being alone, you will never have the opportunity to recognise yourself, to build a relationship and friendship with yourself, and ultimately to work on yourself to become the best version of yourself that you can be. If a person can't be happy with themselves, how can they expect others to be happy with them? If a person doesn't feel peace when alone with their own thoughts and actions, how can we ever be a source of peace for others? If a person doesn't feel blessed when they sit alone in their own company, how can we expect others to feel blessed to have us in their lives?

"I think it's very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person." - Oscar Wilde

Being alone allows you to focus. To build a routine. To be productive. To do what you truly need to do. To meditate. To contemplate. To reflect. None of that can be done when surrounded by people and their idle chatter. None of that can be done when your day is led by the activities and whims, wishes and desires of those people whom you surround yourself with. None of that can be done under the influence and intoxication of a crowd, relying on each other for laughter and comfort and a superficial sense of happiness. Instead, choose to be alone with YOU. Discover your true self and become someone who makes you feel happy, peaceful and content, even when nobody else is around.

"It is only alone, truly alone, that one bursts apart and springs forth." - Maria Isabel Barreno

Only then will you become your own person. Only then will your soul become independent of the company of others in order to be happy. Only then will your mind gain the strength to deal with problems and difficulty without relying on others' input and reassurances. And only then will you be at peace with who you are as a person, rather than turning to others to fill the gaps of your insecurities.

"Alone by herself, she built the kingdom that she wanted." - R. H. Sin

It is in my solitude that I have gained my strength of mind and strength of character. It is in my solitude that I have reached some of my greatest achievements and developed my many talents and interests. It is in solitude that I have discovered my true self. It was in my solitude that I learnt that the person I was, was not whom I wanted to remain. And it is in my solitude that I know that the person I am today is a blessing to the self and to the world.

"Being alone has a power that very few can handle." - Steven Aitchison